The Recovering Nice Guy(s) and I

I was listening to the radio this morning ......

Someone wrote and asked what happened to all the nice guys and Phat boy read a letter from 'A Recovering Nice Guy' and the answer was.........(drum roll) YOU did!!!!!

It got me thinking about all the nice guys I have had in my life and whether they are still nice guys or are recovering nice guys or are now rogues..... and what part I have/had to play in who they are now....

I would like to think that I was sensitive enough not to change them but I must admit I know a couple that I was not attracted to that I really really wished I was coz they were such nice guys!!!

The whole letter was about how girls overlook the nice guys in their lives all along saying they are not attracted to them or they are just not their type and fall in love with the rogues... with time, these really close friends (the nice guy and girl) draw apart and she (the girl) runs through a couple of rogues till she asks the fateful question that started all this.... the nice guy on the other hand realises that the girl he likes is attracted to rogues and starts to evolve.....

My sad questions for this blog post.....

How many girls out there know of a nice guy in their past.....

how many guys out there can associate with this.....

and what do we do about it? Especially for the next generation.....

how do we raise our sons to be nice guys and love girls that appreciate that in them and girls that are sensitive enough to appreciate the nice guy....

26 things to do before turning 26

I got the idea for this blog from a friend of mine here

1. Get my transcript
2. Start my masters
3. Get engaged
4. Be a better person
5. Revive my business
6. Save lots of money
7. Live a debt free life
8. Get closer to God
9. Surrender and submit to Christ
10. Do an HR course by correspondence
11. Chart out my psychology degree plan
12. Do something great and monumental
13. Launch and wind up our (BCL) file management systems
14. Start a school outreach program with the Bible Study girls
15. Be dearly missed
16. Stream line the industrial training policy and procedures at BCL
17. Work out an Internship policy and Launch it
18. Train someone to help with the databank at BCL before I leave
19. Buy another really nice suit
20. EXCERCISE and get REALLY FIT
21. Improve my spending habits
22. Commuicate more and better
23. LIVE!!!
24. Learn to take life one day at a time
25. Explore and improve my mind and heart
26. GROW UP!

Man...26 things are many and I got to be realistic seeing as my 26 is a few months away.

Academic Papers

How do you go about saying you are a graduate if you have no written documentation to prove it?

I graduated in december 2010 and the Vice chancellor said I was awarded a degree in his speech... called out my name with 40 other students, we stood up, the crowd clapped and that was it..... They say we were awarded degrees? Is that how a degree is awarded...

I studied really hard and by God's grace attained a 1st class Degree... not a simple task in my course at my university because the last 1st class before me (only one) was years before my time... Now, this did kinda give me a big head and made me really proud a fact of which I am not very proud... It changed me and my perception of myself in ways I never thought possible.. both positive... coz my self esteem needed the boost and so did my ambition and faith in my self  and negative.... the pride and big head aside.... I would dubt myself and feel like and idiot if i was asked a question and didnt know the answer... plus, sometimes I dont feel as smart as people percieve me to be... there is this constant need to continue and constantly prove myself... convince myself that I earned it and everything that comes with it...

2 years later, the university still hasnt issued transcripts! so I have no documentation of my degree... in some instances, I am no different than a non graduate. I'm blessed to work at a company where the MD attended my graduation so he knows I graduated and I also work at a university that was able to confirm my results informally.

Sadly, such is not the case with University of Reading where I have always dreamed of doing my masters....
I was declined last year because I had hope that my papers would be processed on time... this year I have pushed and prayed... got my application for last year forwarded to this year and pushed and prayed... I have a conditional offer and a place at one of the halls... I have accepted all this and paid the necessary deposits... all as a step of FAITH!!!!

Further still.... despite the far that I have come.... the University now understands and is aware of my situation... the VISA office however is not and will need my transcript to offer me a student visa.... so I'm in this place once again...

Sometimes I wonder whether the Lord is taking me through this to humble me...

Sometimes I'm filled with RAGE and think of all the ways I could bring down the university..... A post for another day

Sometimes I'm filled with so much peace I know God is in this...

Sometimes I wonder whether this is God's will for me or not...

Sometimes I try not to think of the possibility of this dream of mine not coming true...

Sometimes I feel all these feelings at once!!!!

I'm taking a step of faith.... Please join me in prayer this weekend and next week. I will go to Tanzania for a week and I will come back home WITH my transcript....

I cant thinkof ONE question for today..... I can think of many but I dont know if any of them is worth asking.....

True Freedom

Women's Rights, Moving Away From Home, Making Your Own Decisions and........Surrendering to CHRIST!

It is so easy to want to feel liberated, the independent woman, etc...but it's hard to take off that cap and say , ''Lord, I will be servant, I will consider the needs of others before mine, for as long as it brings glory to your name.''

I started this Post more than a week ago and now I cant remember what Iwanted to write about... all I had to go by was the paragraph above... I started to write about it yesterday but did not know where to start so I let it be... Today, I was thinking of deleting the post and writing about other things.... but as I read it, I added the title and the opening line.... so here we go....

I dont know whether I was the origin of the quote or whether I got it from somewhere else but it has got me thinking....

As a child, you are truly free....  of worry, of responsibility of all the things you think at the time are holding you back....

Then you grow up..... still you are free.... to make your own decisions, to do whatever you choose and please and in this day and time, to be whoever you choose and please...

But are you ever really really REALLY free.....

I think that is what salvation is.... TRUE FREEDOM....In Christ, You can be the child and enjoy the childlike freedom.....that is if you manage to allow yourself to do so.....this in itself could be viewed as loss of Freedom.....But in Christ, you also have the liberty of free will.....sadly, t does not come without consequences....

So......My question..... What is true Freedom?

I am such an Introvert!!!!

Always thought I was a bit of both..... but I guess not!

In this post I talked about the robot in me and kuyonza so kindly advised me to check out this link about personality types....

I always thought I was a bit of both an introvert and extrovert but with evidence from my posts (which I wrote before reading about the test) It is so clear that I am an introvert!!!

I know many people who know me who will really strongly object...

so let us see....

Introverted Characteristics

·         Think/reflect first, then Act.....I spend so much time planning and thinking... sometimes I do not act.... check here

·         Regularly require an amount of "private time" to recharge batteries .... so true.... check here

·         Motivated internally, mind is sometimes so active it is "closed" to outside world ....... read this

·         Prefer one-to-one communication and relationships...... implied here

Extraverted Characteristics

·         Act first, think/reflect later ...... I'd rather die.....

·         Feel deprived when cutoff from interaction with the outside world ...... I sometimes really really need and look forward even to being cut off from interaction with the outside world...

·         Usually open to and motivated by outside world of people and things ...... You really cant make me do something if I really do NOT want to do it!!!!

• Enjoy wide variety and change in people relationships ......HELL NO!!!! I like consistency and reliability... when something changes in a relationship it confuses me and takes me a while to adjust....

My question for this post.....

Do you sometimes find out things abot yourself that surprise you? Prior to this post, would you say I was an introvert or extrovert?

Alone Time

I have moments when I actually just want, sometimes, even need to be alone.... not lonely but alone.... or maybe with a particular person(s)

Its been that way for as long as I can remember....

I have always been surrounded by people... I come from a really big family(ies) and they like to stick together and enjoy each others company... I always had lots of friends and many more acquintances...... I have gone to public schools where community living is unavoidable..... and at both my workplaces.... yes both.... (refer to this post).... I have a very close family like evironment... everybody knows everybody and everybody is in everybody's business....

But I have moments when I like to be alone... Some me time or maybe me and somebody me chooses time... time to just determine my day and enjoy my own company... be whoever and whatever I want to be with no thoughts of impressions and judgements... to just go to my own little world and disappear and spend time with me... like going on a gateaway... but that would have to be with me and somebody me chooses....

I'm I selfish and anti-social...I'm I such a terrible person?

Pictures for my Blog.....

So my blog is kinda bland with no pictures and I've been thinking I should get some pictures in here....

I still havent forgiven myself for not taking a picture of the snail I wrote about in this blog.

And a friend of mine pointed out that I could have taken a pic of Mr Bean for this blog....

Does any body out there know how I can go about it? any advice from more experienced bloggers?